Oh My

I was all cracking my knuckles, getting down to business.  The holiday lull turned kids-back-to-school helped make life seem all WORKABLE.  As in, responsibilities AND passions seeming in hand or within reach.  But yet alas (and please, I’m just OBSERVING and not at all COMPLAINING)… that the return of school heralds the return of my intermittent yet perennial INVOLVEMENT with said school… and GIGS.  Both have returned and BOTH have rubbed my nose in ALL WHAT needs to happen. BEFORE (or instead of) indulging in own self blog.  Wah.  Boo!  Gah.  *Sigh.*  Love it all.  So… pardon my… pardon pendent que je m’excuse…

(Pardon me while I excuse myself…)  Ciao and be in touch.

~J

OK, PS: Wonderful pleasure involvement with school, also with performing.  NOT WONDERFUL involvement with everything INVOLVED in said *performing.*  Not only did I arrive at gig this evening   *sans* trunk o’ PROPS, but considering the state of ALL my props, it’s probably all just as well.  Seriously; I have a lovely gig coming up on Jan 15th (not to mention the three or so in the next two days….)   I gotta bust at least a couple things out in that department before returning to these pleasure paths.  GRRR.

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Bubble Wow Chronicles: Scientific Book Edition

Tuesday, January 8th 2014    [Gavin = 5&1/2  y/o]

On Wed, Jan 8, 2014 at 10:21 AM, MaryMargaret wrote:

Gavin asked me yesterday, “What is the most scientific book you have?”  Hmmm… I showed him “Neural Mechanisms of Color Vision,” a book I published when I was a publisher.  He took a look.  not quite what he had in mind, besides it wasn’t very thick.

He went to the bookcase in the hall where I keep my Dad’s “Great Books” collection and a few random others.  “What about these?” he asked.  I said, “Well, you’re right, those are some of the most wise and scientific books ever written.”  He brought out, however, a fat tome with a plain hard cover and no dust jacket.  “What about this one?”

In his hand was “A Short History of Nearly Everything” by that energetic explainer/reporter/historian/travel writer out of Iowa, Bill Bryson, in which Bryson, indeed, takes a crack at describing nearly everything scientific in plain English.  And Bryson’s writing style is quite direct and down-to-earth.  I’m sure Gavin could follow the prose read aloud and probably find much of it fascinating.

Nearly Everything: All You Need to Know When You're Five

Nearly Everything: All You Need to Know When You’re Five

I read him the first paragraph.  He liked it.  I said he could take it home.  Then  he said, “How can I tell which is the front?”  Good question.  So he had me measure the blank cover and outline the space on paper, in which he will draw a scientific picture and we’ll glue it on the front.  His first attempt at the solar system discouraged him — “I made Jupiter too big and it’s touching Saturn” — so he crumpled it.  Then we went on to other things — comparing airworthiness of several paper airplane designs (created using a “bone folder” which in answer to his queries I explained was once made from cow bone but now plastic though it has kept “bone” in the name), checkers (both regular style and “fast-moves/we-don’t-care-who-wins” checkers, which is more fun, especially since  he won!), Slamwich (turns out to be worth its inflated price, perfect for this age, and youthful reflexes count), Mom’s Christmas-gift hot chocolate, and the Roger Miller “Robin Hood” (which I love, like all movies with the boys, for the cuddles in my not-quite-big-enough green chair) — but we’ll tackle Book Cover Project again this afternoon.

Boy @ Desk

Boy @ Desk

All brain and intellect and searching curiosity.  Then we went to his house.

On the way over he encouraged me to not be able to find a clear parking space so that while I circle the block he would go in his house and get his new snow shovel and come down and shovel snow to make a space for me.  Alas, the snow’s about gone, which was just as well since it was cold as heck), where he 1) argued with Dad over how many of Dad’s specially-collected cardboard boxes he could knock around, 2) knocked one around repeatedly with his bare fist to proudly turn his knuckles red (til I couldn’t stand it and yelled at him to knock it off it was driving me nuts), announced at bedtime he has “new, cute” pajamas to wear and took half an hour to get them on, between reads of ClaraJane’s choices, Boynton’s dinosaurs and “Feelings” (“again”), then his choice, 3 chapters of “Don Quixote” (“Ka-HOH-Tay” he instructed me).

Ka-ho-TAY

Ka-ho-TAY

Leaving school there was a fascinating 5 x 7 foot ice sheet to which kids were magnetically drawn of course. We stayed a while but it was cold so I tried to move us along to the car and he didn’t follow right away.  This gave me an opening for something I’d planned to say to him, which is, while it’s the grownup’s job to constantly keep track of the kid, at his age it’s also his job to keep track of his grownup.  It needs to work both ways, then if the attention of one strays, there’s a backup in the other one, and that could prevent the grownups and children from become separated, which is very scary for everyone as we now know for sure.  Like everything, I’m sure he understood the message on the first take, but this led into a recitation of what he would do if he lost track of grandma at school, he would go to the office and say “I’ve lost my grandma,” and I praised him again for his poise and resourcefulness in finding the Salvation Army uniformed lady AND a policeman when he did get lost.

Good Job

Good Rendez Vous Point

Then he confided that Auntie Lolo was mad at his parents that he got lost.  “She is my Godmother, you know.” 

In other familial news he told me FlashCat and Peter Parker are his brothers because they’ve been adopted by the family, so he and they are brothers despite being “different species.”

Flash Cat & Peter Parker

Flash Cat & Peter Parker

While waiting for dinner G and CJ played in the hall whichever “A” neighbor child has the baby sister, and the baby took great delight in coming in and out of #9 with shining eyes and delight at her own boldness. Meanwhile, CJ physically directed the baby’s brother [Ayyian] by the shoulders to come play in her room.  When it was time to eat she sat at the door for a while screaming “I need to go out in the hallway!!” and when ignored, came to her place on Daddy’s knee to eat steak and broccoli.

After what Gavin used to call “turries” [“stories”], Dada came in with a seemingly limp, asleep CJ on his shoulder, but when I congratulated him he said, “Oh, this is faux.”   I handed him the “tippy cup” and beat my retreat, leaving the rest of the bedtime wrangle in his capable hands.

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Thanks Mom!

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C’est Ma Vie (et mon Blog)

“It’s My Life (and my Blog):”

Oh pity my dear blog “followers.”  Darlings!  I’m afraid there’s no stopping me now.  Me and my (still new) MacBook.  Between that and finally a sometimes *tractable* life, I find myself suddenly free to document to my heart’s content.  Frankly a huge improvement over nursing my aching heart from hardly ever getting to do it at all.  But I recognize this means more emails in YOUR inbox, Dear Reader.  So I invite you to come along as I take ever closer and more frequent looks… or bid you adieu should you ever decide to abort.  I won’t be offended should you ever unsubscribe.  I’ve said it before, *It’s My Blog*, and I shall use it and abuse it therapeutically, in celebration, elation, vacation, weigh station… and therapeutically again.   Just think of what an AWESOME fount of love, thoughts and priceless memories this will be one day, for my kids, to ignore after I’m gone.  (o:

ERGO:

So with that caveat complete, I introduce my new unwitting Guest Poster… my mom!  That’s right folks, you know her as a frequent commenter on my posts, foundational figure in my kids’ lives, co-star and supporting actress in many a CircusKitchen Production, and (perhaps less known) as chief influencer of the rich intellectual life she has modeled for me to live my whole life.  That’s right, “Bubble Wow,” the Grandma with the most unusual term of endearment, also known to some of us (who “came from her vagina”) as “The Mamma.”  Here, WITHOUT her official permission, debuting for all to enjoy, I introduce to you; THE BUBBLE WOW CHRONICLES!  (See next post.)

The Scoop:  Bless My Soul, my mom actually takes care of our son every week.  On Tuesdays when I have a regular gig, she picks him up from school for all manner of Bubble Wow Adventures before returning him to our home for supper at our place in my absence.  She also does this for her other grandson, my nephew Miles.  In fact, the boys like to be together so much, that she has now committed to taking them BOTH, TWICE weekly.   But I digress.  The real jewel for me is the RECAP I often get the next day.  As our children’s minds develop, there is no more apt audience than a Grandmother.  (And lo, Grandfathers are invaluable too!)  And few are more prolific of the written word than THIS Grandmother.  So, lest I let these pearls continue to fester and die in the darkness of my email inbox, I say to them, “Come to the light!”

SEARCH KEYWORD: BWC

Voila.

PS:  (Oh, by the way Mom, let me know if this isn’t okay with you!)  (o;

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Happy Fun Pizza Movie Time

Low on time yesterday, we conspired to meet at the local pizza joint instead of slog it out at home.    Little did we know they’d bust out a wonderful movie that would hold our kids silently spellbound for the ENTIRE meal. (“Matilda.”) If you have kids, or have ever KNOWN a kid, then you have an inkling how priceless that is.

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Woah…

I mean…

Umm...

WOAH

I would never do this on a daily basis, but…

Uhh...

Umm…

it sure was…

Mm-hmm

Mm-hmm

So peaceful and easy, having their brains abducted by aliens like that.  Or whatever.

And then it was over.

We're BACK!

We’re BACK!

 

 

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Daddy’s New Everything

So… pretty much on a daily basis I’m amazed, awed and bowled over that I even *have* a husband.  Let alone one that did *not* in fact die of cancer (as he well could have a couple years back), and that he is so absolutely, stunningly spectacular at BEING said husband, and father to our children.  To see him grow from a puddle of pain just surviving cancer treatments, into something resembling what I used to DATE before all that, and then further into this seemingly invincible He-Man Machine who works miracles on a daily basis… leaves me Gobsmacked.  Like every day.

Just the first week so far this year has been amazing.  While I have been quite slow out of the gait (this ol’ Cali Girl not exactly diving head-first into the nearest snow bank), Dear Husband -My Magnificent Minnesota ManMeat Monster- has been on FIRE.  For those of you hating all the snow and cold weather… he makes up for it for you because he LIVES for this!

So here, in humble attempt to honor him, his vitality, his love, the generosity of his spirit, the kind and gentle acceptance with which he supports me every day, and the astonishing strength, effort and energy he brings to our family every day… what brings me to tears when I think (and witness all the time) how great our kids have it in their Dad…  is (surprise!) a video.  Just a sample really -a tiny taste- of his answer to the snow, and of taking our daughter to daycare.

Daddys New Ride [45 seconds]:

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Holy New Year

January 1st 2014

Come here Blog, I need you.  Help me reconcile myself to the end of this holiday “break.”  It has been absolutely glorious.  Especially with the amount of children we have had sloshing all over in and around and throughout the place.  (Cue the moment DLove and I were trying to make the bed; there were so many children underfoot we just threw the covers over all them, like netting fish.)

It has also been game ON with discipline of my boy over being kind, caring and respectful.  I must say, as much as it baffles me when I’m RIGHT THERE and he STILL taunts his sister (or whatever d*ck move du moment)… I think his socialization has improved a lot just in this short break.  The complaints from his little companions have gone from “Gavin hit me!”  to “Gavin says we can’t make police cars out of legos!”  (huh?)  He even seems to be NOT resisting the overall project itself; the aim to civilize him that is.

And after a wonderful party last night (thanks Boharts!), this New Year Day has been oustanding so far too, most notably for my having spent the first half of it in the KITCHEN.  Like, actually COOKING.  (If you’re wondering which part of “CircusKitchen” I’m accountable for… it’s not the kitchen part.)  So I enjoyed the feeling I imagine you cooks feel when you create something that wasn’t there before, through the alchemy of time and temperature, culminating in the satisfaction of feeding people.  (In this case bread, polenta, coffee, tea, cookies and got some beans soaking.)

And then there’s all this other wonderful activity:

What's in this Mess?

What’s in this Mess?

Do You See What I See?

Do you see it?

Jackpot!

Jackpot!

(Thanks for the new Sendak Little Nutshell Library, Mom!)

"Earning  Screen Time" (also known as "reading.")

“Earning Screen Time” (also known as “reading.”)

So proud and amazed at our Boy’s new ability to read, like, ANYTHING.

For example:

THIS

THIS

Meanwhile, back to ClaraJane…

Recovering from Meltdown

Recovering from Meltdown

I will never get tired of the relative scale of these two.  My baby is actually GIANT, but compared to Daddy she’s still Baby.  The Big Fight this time had been, “I DON’T YIKE MY DIAPER! I DON’T YIKE MY DIAPER!!!  I DON’T YIKE MY DIAPERRRR!!!!!!”  Daddy’s shoulder is the BEST place to GIVE IT UP.

Givin' it UP.

I give up Daddy.

Condo Pals

Condo Pals

(Yesterday I had kids undecorate the tree.   They started by eating the popcorn garlands.  Ingenious!)

Alas, Screen Time!

Alas, the coveted Screen Time!

So hypnotic; it really is magic. (Black Magic?)

Reading "Tickle Monster"

Reading “Tickle Monster”

With Tickle Monster *Gloves* even.  (Thanks Aunt Jane Ann!!)

Also complete with *TICKLING*

Also with *TICKLING!*

OK so I’m bushed and crawl into bed and start typing this blog, when along comes “HEWP!”

Me byogging too Mommy

Me byogging too Mommy

Believe it or not when I started this post my intention was to gripe about not ever having gained control over our home environment over the break.  It’s been a disaster zone overwhelmed by debris everywhere.  I’ve had this view of, “Oh our house is not really like this.  We don’t actually live like this, it’s just temporary.”  And Dear Husband assures me it IS only temporary.   And, in case you don’t think I’m spoiled enough already, he has been cleaning and purging for just about the whole time I’ve been resting and writing today.  So alas, my blog is spared of any more whining for now.  (Sorry, DH, that you were not spared before I wrote this.)  

So, yeah.  Oh yes.  Hell yes.  Blessings.  The Blessings.  Too numerous to count.  Abject abundance is obviously just damn messy sometimes.  And we really need to give away more.  But not THIS mess that just piled up next to me:

Precious, Priceless Mess

Miwk on keyboard; ‘Nuff said.

Hmmm, something is missing yet.  Oh, more CAT please.

I NEED to knead you, NOW.

I NEED to knead you.  NOW.

Am I spoiled, or just lucky?

Spoiled?  Or  Frigging Lucky?  (Yes.)

***SIGH!***

OK, thank you, Blog (Therapy), for setting me strait again.  I can’t see the mess anymore.  I’m blinded by beauty all around me.   So I’m going back to shutting up now, quick!

Bless Us, Thank You, Amen.

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NYE 2014 +Vid

New Year’s Eve – December 31st 2013

2013-12-31 NYE Kids

Gavin 5 y/o, CJ 2y/o

 

This New Year’s Eve found us at the Bohart’s party, from which my mom created this sketch of our family:

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The O’s by Bubble Wow

 

So great!  Especially considering IRL apparently we looked like this:

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Reality #1

 

This:

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Reality #2

 

And this:

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Reality #3

[Side note: This may actually be the night my son’s love affair with video games began.  Of course it’s wired into his DNA, but still; Arrgh.]

 

Moreover, for posterity (aka: to watch and blubber over when I’m an old lady), here is a video of unadulterated schmaltz from that night; New Year’s Eve of 2014.  How often do you wish you could stop time?  This is as close as I can come.

2014-12-31 Boharts New Year’s Eve [6 mins, 08 secs]:

 

 

#Gavin #ClaraJane #Loveyouforever #DLove2 #BubbleWow

 

 

 

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“Misunderstood” Ad

Happy Post-Christmas Decompression everyone!  I am busily working to capture (and share) our recent wonderful madness.  In the meantime…

Just my husband’s *describing* this commercial made me teary.  Then he *showed* it to me and I was practically bawling.  “I DON’T HAVE THE CONSTITUTION FOR THIS!”  I protested.  In jest of course.  Because other than I am the *mother* in our life and not the socially removed teen… and other than it takes me days, weeks, years to furnish edited videos, not moments… THIS IS ME!

“Misunderstood” by Apple [1 min, 30 secs]:

 

(Btw:  how did he do all that on his *phone.*   Really?  Whatever.  Same diff.)

Reminds me of my mom’s birthday toast (best one of my life, btw):

          “Although we know you are self-absorbed, Jennifer,                                    

we also know you are extremely generous.”

THANKS MOM!  Quelle surprise; you are right.  As usual.

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Christmas 2013 – Cambridge

PART I:  After reconciling with my husband over his unexpected absence putting in way more work hours than I understood would happen, then taking all night until 6:15am making Christmas Magic… my efforts were rewarded at 7:45am when I opened my eyes to my Boy beaming his face into mine, “SANTA CAME!!!”

Santa Came!

Voila

Gavin also had one of Santa’s packages in his hands. “Look!” he said, crawling into bed with us, “I wonder what it could be!” he said cradling it close to his heart., “Maybe an i-Pod?   Or a Tablet?   Or an i-Phone?   Or…?”

“Oh Holy CRAP!” I thought. Did we really screw the pooch this badly on managing expectations? What he was actually holding in his hands couldn’t have been a crappier “gift.” It happened to be a PACKAGE OF BABY WASH CLOTHS. OMG. I might be sleep deprived but I had to think fast. I told my son I’m sorry but Santa doesn’t bring gifts to children that their parents don’t give permission for, and that he would have to be a lot older (THAN FIVE) before starting on his own electronics. Optimistically, he offered that he could put it away somewhere safe until he was older, “Like seven… or eight or something?” I then had to explain that electronics evolve quickly and… yada yada. Amazingly, he forgot about that package for a while.

Stockings

Stockings

My kids slowly poked through their stuff. After stockings, opening a present here or there. Playing with it for a while. Then drifting off somewhere to play with old toys they already have. We put on some more coffee. This was obviously going to take a few days.  Fine!

One of Santa’s packages for Gavin was some clothes.  I did not know how this was going to go over, although I did think Santa had excellent taste.  (Just sayin’.)  Amazingly, Gavin agreed; “Awesome!” he said, immediately getting dressed into them out of jammies.  Then we get back to the pack of wash cloths, Gavin opens them and I casually say, “Huh!  How did Santa know we needed those?”  Gavin tosses them aside and declares, “I guess it’s a Christmas Miracle!”  I guess so too, indeed. (o:

A Christmas Miracle!

“A Christmas Miracle”

Here is ClaraJane “opening” a present, by clipping off little bits of ribbon with her new kids scissors.

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“Opening” a Present

Here are Daddy and Gavin exploring, “How Much, How Many, How Far, How Heavy, How Long, How Tall Is 1000?”

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What a Gift

PART II: My mom, sister Amanda and her crew generously made the Christmas Trudge over to OUR home this year, and in the interest of time had forgone both cleaning up at her house AND eating.  Consequently, we were all sleep deprived, over stimulated, under nourished and using all our low-blood sugared strength not to gouge each other’s eyes out.  (I’m totally exaggerating, but you get the idea, AND you know what I’m talking about!)  She even brought over one of the main dishes for brunch (thank you James for the blueberry french toast.)  And, in his inimitable way, it was once again also my husband to the rescue, with salmon gravlox, potato pancakes, manchego cheese, cave aged cheddar, coffee, mimosas and more.  More Christmas Miracles!

Miles & ClaraJane

Miles & ClaraJane

Thankfully after food, we still had a good hour to relax and enjoy, which we did.  For an hour.  Then it was Swirling Time.  Off to the next venue; my husband’s sister’s down in Plymouth.  Resisting transition, my son protested, “I don’t want to go!”  At the exact same time as I hear myself saying, “Talk to your Dad!”  I hear my husband saying to our daughter, “Talk to your Mom!”   “What is it honey?” I asked her.  “Mamma I need five doyyars!”  Hmm, I thought about it. “Sure!”  Whatever keeps us moving forward.  I gave her the jar of change to diddle with and she was happy.  Me too.

My Babydoll and Her Babydoll

My Babydoll’s Babydoll

 

2013-12-25 CircusKitchen Christmas 2013 [4 mins, 22 secs]:

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Peter and the Wolf

Here is a 3 minute version of this stunning production, showcasing the instrumentation,

And HERE is the full 30 minute version.

Ahh it’s so awesome!  Hope you find can find time to enjoy… preferably with someone you dig.  (o:

Wishing you a Merry Christmas…

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