CJ Cousin Time

Thursday, March 21st 2019


Daddy tells ClaraJane all the people who were asking after her at school today; with Aunt Amanda, Cousin Mary & Cousin Rowan.


Certainly a bonus of concussion recovery is when your COUSINS COME OVER!

2019-03-21 CJ Cousin Time [30 seconds]:


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Dammit – Update

Wednesday, March 20th 2019


First post-concussion nap a success.  (Complimented by Council of Concerned Cats.)


Followed by lots of snuggling…


Feeling better.


So far so good!

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Wednesday, March 20th 2019

Today the Hospital Clown becomes hospital mom. My Baby got forcefully shoved onto the pavement at school today and is now home with a concussion.


Good news is the CT scan didn’t show any hemorrhage, brain damage or skull fractures.


She’s been cleared to start napping -and taking it easy for hours, days or weeks- tho I don’t like it at all except for the snuggling and everything else about ClaraJane.

The school -in which I have every confidence- is already on the job of looking into “the incident.” We have the understanding that it was a careless playground accident. Of course that does not stop a mother from asking “W.T.F.” Or stop her from finding exactly out Who. Did. This.

Because you know I will.

The amazing thing is that because her Daddy is the Chef there, *he* is the one who noticed she didn’t seem herself at lunchtime, and brought her into the kitchen for a closer look. *He* brought her to the school nurse who recommended getting screened for concussion. (She’d apparently only complained about her hand, and initially seemed fine. The bruises didn’t show up right away either.). Then he took her to the doctor, who sent them to the hospital. (I left my work too and Ubered right over.) Of all the benefits of him working there, I am more thankful for it on this of all days.

At any rate, now is where we start paying particularly close attention to the miraculous healing powers of the human body.


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Shining Light: The Magic Flute

Sunday, March 17th 2019


Randomly for St. Patrick’s Day this year got to attend a gorgeous family-friendly presentation of The Magic Flute at Boston Symphony Hall with Boston’s Youth Symphony Orchestra.  Amazing.

Here is Queen of the Night’s incomparable aria (from the internet although the one we saw was every bit as good!) [2:58]:


I can think of nothing like it.  Such transcendence of the human spirit.  No wonder Mozart’s music is considered worthy of the Gods!

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At Rise: Mommy Daughter Love

Sunday, March 17th 2019

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AT RISE:  Mom and ClaraJane are getting ready to go to the opera!  Mom is brushing ClaraJane’s hair in front of the bedroom mirror.

M:  [Pauses.]  Can I tell you something?

C:  What?

M:  I love you.

C:  And I poop on your face!

M:  [Pauses brushing, raises eyebrow.]

C:  I mean, I fart on your hand!

M:  That’s more like it.  [Resumes brushing.]

C+M:  [Giggling…]



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Down But Not Defeated

Friday, March 15th 2019

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At bedtime two nights ago I ask my son if anything is on his mind.  And how!  Turns out he is gripped with fear because a huge school project is almost due and he hasn’t done it.  Eek!

Surprisingly, I just listen, breathe deeply, hold him closer,  wait and feel his tense body relax and slip off to sleep.  Huzzah!  Things are always sunnier in the morning.  Moreover this gives me time in which to formulate -with Daddy- The Parental Response.

In the morning we sit down and I tell him I see three parts to this problem;

1. I know what it feels like to have these feelings of shame, fear, embarassment,  confusion and self-loathing (all to which he nods vigorously).  This happens to EVERYONE at some point in their lives, and we can learn from it.  (Our pediatrician called it the “Shame Spiral.“)

2.  Instead of letting these feelings get the best of us and continuing to avoid the problem, it’s time to have courage; to dig deep and focus on what can be done.   See what we can do to turn this around and restore what integrity we can in these last 24-hours.

3.  Looking past this, to accept that “Houston, We Have a Problem” with Executive Functioning, and that going forward this is our opportunity to LEARN from the struggle and EMBRACE what E.F. TOOLS we can find to help accommodate this “weakness.”

And PS: 4. It’s okay to have weaknesses!

Long story short; he was much relieved.  Threw himself into the business of the project right after school that day.  Worked his butt pretty hard.  Produced some decent quality work.  Hugged me and said, “Huh.  Before I didn’t even want to GO to school tomorrow.  But now I’m kind of excited!” 

The project was Ancient Civilization, there were four components to it and everything turned out fine.  So I’m proud of him for that.

That same day we even get to Meet the New Teacher AND it’s Crazy Hair Day.

He styled his Crazy Hair himself AND had the balls to wear it to school all day and I’m proud of him for that too.



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Mamma Cat

March 2019

Leave Me Alone Mommy I’m An Adult Now! [0:38]:


My kids and I both adore this video and find it hilarious.

I also love it because now when they are resisting my advances I can just declare, “MAMMA CAT!” and go in for the “kill” (tickling, nuzzling, mucking about) and they laugh instead of resist.



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