Operation Surprise Anita

Thursday, November 7th 2019

On this day, my son and I are somewhat spontaneously flying cross country to my hometown to surprise my dad but mostly my step-mom. She has a big birthday coming up (though we would never be so indiscreet as to mention the number), and I just felt that for maybe ONCE in my life I could try to thank her and let her know I appreciate her for all the UNTOLD amount of work, love and sacrifice she has given of herself -and continues to give- for our family over all these years; for me and especially for my big, dumb ol’ high-needs Dad.

Literally no one knows how she does it. Or -as Dad would say- “Whah?” (Southern for “why?”) And certainly no one knows HOW.

Anyway Anita, I’m sure it will be both a shock and a bit of a stressor to have us show up like this. And I wish I was coming with a host of lmaids and handymen, a chef, a masseuse, a chauffeur and a well-stocked retirement account… all things you so deserve. I’m hoping our meager offerings and a bit of extra company will still convey that I appreciate you. And all you have done and continue to do.

To be continued.

Love,

“JM”


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At Rise: Look at Me

Thursday, November 7th 2019

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AT RISE:  Mom is driving the rental car across the Bay Bridge to Oakland with Boy in the passenger seat.

Boy:  [Stewie Style]  Mom! Hey!  Mum!  Mummy!  Mom!

Mom:  [Turns to looks at Boy.]

Boy:  [Gently slapping her cheek]  KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE ROAD!

SCENE. 

 

Stewie Family Guy [0:32]:

 

 


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Election Day – Crazed and Confused

Tuesday, November 5th 2019

Cambridge Common in the Morning

Driving my daughter to school today we pass the public park at Cambridge Common and what do I see but my new Homeless Buddies, Victor and Michael.  And because I had just picked up some new reading glasses for Michael, I pulled over to say good morning.  (He couldn’t afford the $25 ones at the drugstore… so I picked up a couple $1 pair at the dollar store.  I know from experience they work great.)  And as I now seem to be collecting homeless friends, I also gave a package to their buddy “James.”

Later in Harvard Square I see my Climate Strike” homeless guy holding up a piece of cardboard that reads, “CAN’T AFFORD A WITTY SIGN,”  and now I appreciate him even more.

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At school I got reassurance from a trusted mom that I wasn’t a jerk for posting these –what in Cambridge are really very BIPARTISAN– endorsements on Facebook:

“You’re allowed to like different people!” says my friend

The problem is that what I’m learning is, bottom line; I am not NEARLY as informed as I ACT. And the implications of these opposing endorsements is something I don’t fully grasp. Let’s just say the PROGRESSIVE Camp and the NEO-LIBERAL Camp do not share the same views on HOW certain challenges –like Housing, Homelessness and Climate— should be addressed.

Liberalism vs. Progressivism (?)

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Welp… Fast forward and I’m inside an election office for my candidate, Quinton Zondervan, to help G.O.T.V. by “text banking”… which I have never done before. But I’m READY TO LEARN.

Scene of Non-Stop Hot Election Day Action

After texting scores of known Zondervan supporters –asking if they’ve voted yet– I take it upon myself to order lunch for everybody, whereupon both my computer AND the food incurred breakdowns requiring troubleshooting and costing about 40 minutes. I swear I could have gotten through the entire rest of the list by then, but alas it was time to both go meet my daughter’s school bus and to go VOTE.

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The equipoise and appreciation from Quinton’s assistant Dan made me appreciate FOOTBALL of all things, for perhaps the only time in my life. What’s beautiful about a collaboration on a diversely populated campaign machine for example, is that it doesn’t matter WHO’s got the ball. You suffering a tackle doesn’t matter so much as that you got the ball a few yards down the field.

The Equipoise of Dan

Our polling station is actually our spectacularly sparkling new library, replete with campaigners including our favorite beloved School Committee Incumbent and hardworking sweetheart, Fred Fantini.

Fred Fantini and ClaraJane

All ClaraJane wants is to Get. In. That. Library. to continue reading Harry Potter.

#ThanksfortheLiteracy Cambridge Public School Reading Intervention Program!

#YouAreWelcome ClaraJane!

DLove heads in to vote

Here’s where it gets complicated for me.

For City Council there were 22 candidates –including 8 incumbents– for 9 seats. And because our People’s Republic is blessed with Rank Choice Voting, the result is a dizzying array of bubbles to fill out, accurately. And if your strategy and your sincere understanding and your loyalties have been scrambled in the past few days like mine have… it might take you more than one try. And if you mess up the maximum amount of allotted times and finally succeed in getting your ballot processed on your third try, the folks in the polling station might *clap* for you as they did me.

“I always worried about people who are too dumb to deserve to vote,” I told them, “I didn’t realize I might be one of those people!”

At least I got a good laugh from the whole place before I ran off to paint faces for the evening.

So much to learn…

And Scene.


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Just My Cute Damn Daughter

Tuesday, November 5th 2019

2019-11-05 My Cute Damn Daughter [1:07]:

 

 


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Meeting with Victor & Mayor McGovern

Monday, November 4th 2019

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Photo does not convey how lovely each of these men are.

 

Today is the day Mayor McGovern invited my friend Victor to come in to the Mayor’s Office in City Hall to address his homelessness.  When I met up with Victor to accompany him to the meeting, he asked if his friend Michael could come along.  They are bunk mates at the First Church Shelter.  So the three of us boarded the train together for one whole stop from Harvard to Central Square.  They each have disability vouchers to ride the train -this is one of the ways they are able to stay warm- and I am thankful I was able to recently refill my own T pass.

Michael has been a life long fisherman in Gloucester (where we know some of the same people). He even worked aboard the famous “Andrea Gale” a year before it famously sank, as depicted in the “The Perfect Storm” movie.   Then one day riding his bike he was hit by a car that fled the scene, taken to a shit-hole hospital that x-rayed his many broken bones and sent him home that same very night.  He limps with a cane and does not complain.

I also learned that the reason Victor is homeless is because he came down with cancer,  was no longer able to work as an auto-mechanic, and lost the apartment he had in Boston.  My impression is that his alcoholism has come out of his homelessness, not the other way around.

I am struck to have been accompanied today by two very lovely and congenial men who are walking embodiments of the exact system failures my boyfriend Bernie Sanders crusades against EVERY. DAMN. DAY.

Here are two productive members of society with lively vocations who are knocked off their feet and out of their homes by medical emergencies.

If that is not the definition of “There but by the Grace of God go I,” I don’t know what is.

To quote Bernie:  “No one should become bankrupt -or homeless- because of a medical diagnosis.”

Anyway,  as anticipated in the meeting, the Mayor is not imbued with any magical powers to fix things, and both men understood this.  But he did give them a particular name (Maura Pensack) of a contact (Housing Liaison) at our homeless advocacy place (Cambridge Mutli-Service Center).   And we did discuss at length the issues facing our homeless, both generally and specifically.   The Mayor shared with them some of the efforts, issues, obstacles, hopes and plans he’s dealt with in addressing some of the many challenges.

I think we all appreciated learning about it all, and being involved in such an enriching discussion.  Plus City Hall is our hall and it is beautiful and the Mayor’s Office especially so.

At one point Michael said, “I wouldn’t want your job,” empathizing with how complicated and vast the challenges are.  And Victor was excellent at stating the truth simply and clearly, not just about his own needs but of those who are worse off than him; those that don’t have daily access to FOOD for example.

I praised the Mayor for taking his time on the DAY BEFORE AN ELECTION to address the needs of these two gentlemen who by definition cannot even VOTE.  Of note, we were the third of at least four meetings the Mayor was hosting this MORNING… ALL about HOUSING.  He also asked Victor and Michael if, after the election and before positions change in January, they would be willing to participate in a focus group he’s facilitating around these issues.

I also left there so much more confused on the political issues around housing in our town, as the Mayor McGovern and my professed #1 Councilor Zondervan are on opposing sides of the same team in terms of ideological approach to addressing the same issues.   So basically, my ignorance is showing.  The more I learn the more I don’t know.  Argh.

And under it all I just have to say how lovely these two men are to be around.  Sweet, honest, optimistic and not at all self-pitying.

“Shedooby!” Michael says.

“Shedooby,” says Victor.

“That means Life Goes On,” says Michael.

And Victor says, “You talk too much.”

To be continued!


 

 

 

 

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Packages for the Homeless – “Help for Victor”

Friday, November 1st 2019

Note:  I’ve decided to chronicle my efforts at giving packages to the homeless because; 1) It’s so simple and rewarding, and 2) Maybe others will try it.
See also:  https://circuskitchen.com/2019/10/22/helping-people-is-just-not-that-hard/

I brought three packages for homeless with me to Harvard Square today.

The first homeless person I encountered was a lady sitting on the ground.  When I handed her a package she perked up with surprise, enthusiasm and appreciation.

The second homeless person I found happened to be totally Woke, and displaying a sign that said “SKOLSTREJK FOR KLIMATET.”  I thanked him for his Climate Strike and he cheerfully pointed out it was a replica Greta Thunberg’s original sign she displayed outside Swedish Parliament just last year.  He also pointed out his Extinction Rebellion sign, and was happy for me to take his picture as part of my activism.

 

Then I still had 15 minutes before my bus, so I wandered into Cambridge Common figuring I’d find someone there.  I passed the five homeless folks enjoying a boisterous conversation with each other and found a lone man having a contemplative moment on a park bench.  I offered him a package and shook his hand and told him I hope he has a nice day, and he asked me my name.  So I told him and asked him his.  His name is Victor and he had a very sweet demeanor.   Because I have benefitted from a lifetime of good instincts about people, I sat down and asked him what he really needs (beyond a little package of snacks and socks).

“Housing,” he explained simply.

I asked him more questions with simple interest, and he told me his circumstances, including that he suffers from alcoholism.  He did this without complaint, entitlement or self-pity, although he did wonder if there was something he did in his life that is causing him to be punished  for some reason.  He told me that somehow money is not the problem, but that he doesn’t have a place to spread out and put his things, and that “I just feel like a part of myself is missing.”

I empathized with him and told him I wasn’t familiar with any resources for him but that I recently learned the most direct way to contact our City Council, and that I would be happy to write an email on his behalf.  So I took out my phone and did that, including a picture which he agreed I could include.

We shared a couple of hugs and he told me how happy he was that I took a few moments out of my day to set down and talk with him.

THIS IS OF COURSE THE POINT.  And for all purposes the end of the story.

But wouldn’t you know that within and hour, not only had (my favorite) Councilor Zondervan responded with the contact for our Cambridge Multi-Service Center, (for which Victor already has an appointment coming up) but Marc McGovern, our current Mayor, wrote this:

McGovern, Marc

Nov 1, 2019, 2:55 PM
Please have Victor come to the Mayor’s Office at City Hall on Monday at 10 am. Thanks.

 

Wow, right!?

Frankly, I”m thrilled.  I have Victor’s phone number so I am excited to text him the news, and perhaps accompany him should time allow.

Update:  In fact I just texted him and he would like me to come with, so… to be continued.

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PS:  I find it noteworthy that our town’s ELECTION is the following day, and here our Mayor is making time for a constituent who by definition can most likely not even vote.  VERY cool.   But we knew this already.



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CircusKitchen Halloween 2019

October 31st 2019
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Serious Cat and *Spooky Scary Skeleton*

 

 

 

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Girlfriend apprehends her own face painting.

 

2019-10-31 CircusKitchen Halloween 2019 [2:40]:

MEANWHILE:

My Mom & Sister’s Crew:

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Mom, Rowan, Mary, Miles (!) & ‘Manda

 

Here my niece Mary the Fairy flits by her amazing brother Miles escorting a little Pumpkin with Legs:

 

And from Uncle Chris & Donna in Minneapolis:

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Bernie Sanders casually Trick-or-Treating with his Grandkids and nibbling candy is my Happy Place.

https://www.nbcnews.com/video/bernie-sanders-goes-trick-or-treating-556482115742?cid=sm_fb&fbclid=IwAR1SA2ZmPwWmHFBGRmyHJMmqYXTun5GG2YF6xRYjgadhaQRG4zt8ElhaSyI

 

Although these also warm my heart:

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tRumple-thin-skin where he belongs, and Birdie Bae.

 

Historical Note:  On this day the House (of Representatives) also voted to formalize Impeachment proceedings against the f#cktard in the White House (He also changed his residence from New York to Florida to evade taxes and other legal issues once he’s indicted with some of his countless crimes.  A truly spooky story… tragically to be continued.)


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Sugar Skulls with My Sugar Boy

Friday, November 1st 2019 – Dia de los Muertos

 

Gavin’s Sugar Skull

 

When your Boy asks you to drive him to school so he can show you the Sugar Skull he painted in Spanish Class for Dia de los Muertos, you say yes!

Ms. Oxy’s spectacular “Ofrenda.”

 

And if you do, you just *might* be rewarded by a personalized tour of school by said Boy, who slips his hand in your sweater pocket so no one sees you holding hands.  You might even find a Kit-Kat he slipped in there from Trick-or-Treating the night before.

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Shhh!

 

And when you run into your Other Child in the stairwell, they may just share a sweet tender hug between siblings.

Aw… so “sweet.

 

Just kidding!!

It’s actually a regular moment of rivalry and chaos like any other, lol:

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And said Other Child may adorably INSIST you walk her to class, only to have her then tell you to “LEAVE ME ALONE.”  Followed by clenched teeth and fists as she quietly screams, just, “LEAVE!!!” 

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“LEAVE!!”

 

So you do.  And go back to the cafeteria to rejoin Boy as requested, but hang back because he is surrounded by peers.  Junior High “peers.”  But he does give you a slightly detectable over-the-shoulder little wing flap as he mutters “Bye!” before heading out to the playground before breakfast.

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“Bye.”

 

And speaking of breakfast, you might also see your giant Hubsand  -Chef Paul- kindly checking in all manner of teeny tiny humans into the cafeteria register, making sure they EACH remembered to grab “one fruit or juice!”

“Where is your fruit or juice?”

 

And if your stars AND schedule align, you just might find your way to a coffee/wifi haven in which to continue your favorite dance with satellites and posterity.

Happy Me.


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JTJ Halloween Gigs

October 30th 2019

Jenny the Juggler at work:

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Photos by: The Great and Incomparable LOUISE PARISE. Love her. THANKS LOUISE!!

Great work if you can get it.

#LuckyPerformer


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Halloween PSA – My Heroes

Halloween 2019 and beyond

 

Ooh boy… and girl…  grab your kleenexes!

“My Heroes” – A Halloween PSA [2:00]: 

 

Hell yes.


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